Some of the cats came back. Needless to say there was a very happy girl. She was waiting for her special "Fur-Ball" to show up but she is still not here. In the meantime she will play with the cats that are here. We had located the owner. This mother cat had brought her babies across a creek, a meadow, and a wooded area to our wood pile. The owner came and took them home. How many times are we going to do this?
The bad thing about the cats being back....her mysterious foot ache is back too.
Think it has anything to do with crouching for hours on the porch playing with kittens?
A little over 2 weeks ago she started complaining about her feet/foot hurting. After the first night we examined her foot and found a splinter that we had thought was just a cut. She allowed us to take it out. We thought maybe she had been walking on the side of her foot thus causing the pain. But the next night we started alll over again. It only hurt at nap time or at bedtime. The pain ONLY started when the story book was half finished OR as I was about to leave her room in the evening. One night she screamed for about an hour.Other nights we allowed her to fall asleep on the sofa and she was fine. One afternoon she screamed the whole way to school and half the way back home. The others quickly jumped in the van and asked me if I can't do anything about her. I told them to grab tissues to stick in their ears---that's what I did. Another afternoon was spent listening to screaming, instead of napping. I was about to make an appointment with her doctor until one afternoon when she wanted to go out to the cats I asked if her feet hurt "here", "here" and "here" and all the spots her "yes" (with a small grin) I went up her leg to her knees and hips and "yes" everything hurt. I got a real concerned look on my face and told her that if she is that sick she needs to be laying on the sofa and I will need to talk to the doctor to see if there is a shot for that. "My feet don't hurt mama."
My husband had noted after the first night spent with us praying over her "this is her anniversary you know." So I held out, trying to be the adult and not get too pulled into the "trauma-versary". We are now at about 5 days with no screaming, she even had a few naps. I am still laying on the floor beside her at bedtime (we had just graduated away from that), but she isn't contributing to my hearing loss on a daily basis. I did talk to her about her anniversary and told her that maybe it is her heart hurting and maybe when she is outside with the cats she is actually missing me. ( I really don't know). Now, every so often during the day she will say "mama I'm missing you, my feet are hurting". I will hold her for awhile and she soon is off and playing again.
SO?? are we done with screaming for another year? I HOPE SO!
What were we doing last year? I seem to remember that we were having screaming fits on a fairly regular schedule throughout the week, so I probably didn't even think about it if there were some extra traumatic nights.
Adoption is wonderful, but it is born of loss and weeks like this make me remember that.
Time for our yearly funky whole family picture, the one where we have to show a certain country that we are all still alive and can be in the same room together.
This is for our 2 year post placement report.
We had to catch Ben when he was home AND arrange the social worker visit for a time that he
actually was home. He is a busy man these days.
Shekinah and Parker understand the wonders of an I-phone.
Parker's mama allowed them to use it for a little bit---brave lady.
so what happens if you don't send in the yearly photo? Lia enjoyed the pictures of Shekinah and her... oops THE cats. :) Is it possible that when she is outside playing with her cats she suddenly thinks where is mama? and that triggers the sense of loss she felt way back when....? Our Joseph does that a lot
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